In kind, or optional donation

If you have been harmed by someone, or know that you have caused harm to someone, and are finding yourself stuck on how to move forward, we can navigate that stuckness together transformatively. This might look like:

• An initial call or meeting where you can share what happened for you

• Ongoing dialogue at whatever pace and in whatever format you feel most comfortable with

• Full agency to stop or pause our conversations at any time

• Slow and consensual dialogue in which I support you to figure out what you need and explore different ways of meeting those needs

• Working in ways where everyone gets to consent, offering questions to think about different outcomes, encouragement to put care around yourself and how to do that.

• Practice conversations and drafting messages.

This is an offer to those who have experienced or caused harm, where an incident of harm is the main focus. This is not for mutual conflict, although the distinction is not always clear. My ‘Interpersonal Conflict Repair’ offer is usually appropriate in most cases.

£35-75 per session (as an individual - see org rates where an org is covering costs)

These sessions focus on interpersonal conflict - conflict within relationships. Does the way you behave in your relationships reflect the world you want to build?

I know that showing up for each other can feel scary to commit to in a culture of scarcity and domination, and unlearning punitive and transactional ways of relating feels risky and takes a lot of practice.

My Interpersonal Conflict Coaching offer is a confidential space in which you can practise new ways of being in a high support, low stakes context.

Offer:
Ad hoc 1-hour calls with me to:

• Talk through live interpersonal conflicts and identify needs and boundaries

• Reflect on your values and behaviours, and where there is alignment or misalignment between them

• Practice self accountability, difficult conversations, and negotiation with roleplays

• Test out intentional vulnerability and practise meaningful apology

• Use tools such as Restorative Justice Questioning, The Drama Triangle, Non-Violent Communication, and Pod Mapping to create more connection and shift things that feel stuck.

Supporting 1-3 people through conflict. This would look like:

1. One-to-one conversations with you each to explore your readiness for a repair conversation, and to get a clearer idea of where you each want to be understood, the conditions you need to feel able to engage in repair, any patterns or dynamics that play out between you. At this stage I charge a one-off fee of £40-75

2. If you are both willing and ready to have a conversation together - I can support you both to make agreements about how you're going to show up in the space, and under what conditions you will not continue.

3. During the conversation - holding you both accountable to those agreements, supporting you individually to name things you said were important to you, and generally just slowing things down, deescalating, supporting people to feel heard and share space, checking for clarity and understanding, agreeing next steps. At this stage, I will either invoice you, or you will be invited to make an optional donation - whichever we have agreed up front

I am not a trained mediator - this is not formal mediation

£350 - 700

Building transformational organisations means rethinking power, policies, and structures in radical ways. This is particularly crucial when it comes to conflict. Punitive ways of responding to conflict undermine transformative culture, and quite simply don’t work: historical conflicts that seem superficially resolved frequently flare up, and dynamics of mistrust and disconnection become entrenched in ways that grind projects to a stop. People need support to break these cycles, but approaching conflict differently as a leader can feel risky.

My Transformative Leadership offer gives leaders the space to name fears, reflect on mistakes, and work through and test out new ways of being. Together we hold a transformative space, navigating the tension between what we believe is possible, and what people are capable of right now.

Offer:

Six fortnightly 1-hour calls with me supporting you to identify:

• Where and how you can hold yourself accountable

• How to support your team to build transformative culture proactively

• Underlying needs and potential points of negotiation in existing conflict

• Creative ways forward to shift stuckness

3 months of one-on-one support including ongoing availability over email, and WhatsApp